The world you and I live in and with, the world of the 21st Century, one could say a world that has been characterised by connectedness or perhaps better said interconnectedness which impacts every aspect of life. There has always been connectedness but not as we have it today, through web spaces, through Facebook, ‘Whats app’ and every other way of weaving our lives together. For some it has become the hours and hours of conversation that has helped a degree of belonging or being known, for others it is just a plain pressure to conform or what causes a competitive challenge to be as bright, big, known as those people feel are in their network.
We actually live in a society that has now developed a need to collect information about clients, friends and family.
Our search for more and more connectedness in our every day world whether it be in terms of knowledge of people, in business or just more and more so called friends on Facebook that you have to cull out every so often.
Yet in all this we have a deep need for friendship, practical friends around us that we can go through life with. Before you say I don’t agree, it is a sociological fact people are more lonely today than at any time in history.
Our invitation to participate with the Creator, with the Father Son and Holy Spirit is first and foremost a ‘Let there be relationship’, a relationship that will surpass all others we have ever experienced. We humanise the words of description of the scriptures dumbing them down to human form, rather than realising God communicates with us in expressions and words we can grasp but invites us to elevate the ideas to the place where the Divine functions
When we are told ‘we have been brought near’, or even ‘abide in me and i in you’, ‘just as my Father has loved me…i loved you’, the ultimate connectedness we have been introduced to. More than introduced to, it is the ultimate Facebook experience a ‘Face to face’ relationship. Oh to be able to pour myself into this connection, this Divine Union as much as our world pour into sudo connectedness. The hours that drift by of posting, making clips talking to millions on screen, making a name yet never really being connected. Perhaps people having more information than ever about each other, which I agree can be so positive but let us not get lost into a non relationship relationship. Find those who are so impacted by the UNION of God that they will be those who ‘stick closer than a brother’, who are ‘friends in time of need’, who will carry each others burdens without using the information to become superior or dominate.
I find the words in the book of John, so relevant and powerful today, of this union we have been made part of, nothing of ourselves it is all a Divine work that made provision and brought us from an unfriended world to be in UNION. I cannot get over people who Know Father, Son and Holy Spirit in our little techno world unfriending people, we are to be the exact mirror of the one who takes away every unfriending. It is time to be and demonstrate to the world around us ‘how they love one another’, not my how divided they are. A relational world, even the society around us knows we are interconnected, globally connected and are trying to grapple with this, true connected is our UNION
John writes of this great connectedness in this manner, let these words wash over you and become living, become connected with the person, allow the words to become alive, living off the page and embedding in our innermost being, John 17:8 “for the words which You gave Me I have given to them; and they received them and truly understood that I came forth from You, and they believed that You sent Me.”. For there is no better way of saying our UNION and the creation UNION, words are not just what we speak, is not the Son in our words and actions, the language of the last days Hebrews “in the last days…spoke in the Son”, how rich a UNION. The life, the essence, my vehicle of communicating myself – words I give them, I implant this in them. Then John goes on in V9 “I ask on their behalf; I do not ask on behalf of the world, but of those whom You have given Me; for they are Yours;
10 and all things that are Mine are Yours, and Yours are Mine; and I have been glorified in them.
11 “I am no longer in the world; and yet they themselves are in the world, and I come to You. Holy Father, keep them in Your name, the name which You have given Me, that they may be one even as We are.
12 “While I was with them, I was keeping them in Your name which You have given Me;
Connectedness, interconnectedness at a Divine level, this is what we are designed for, hence the need to belong, have friendship, be together
it does not stop there but moves into our connectedness across humanity John15:12 “This is My commandment, that you love one another, just as I have loved you.
13 “Greater love has no one than this, that one lay down his life for his friends.
14 “You are My friends if you do what I command you.
15 “No longer do I call you slaves, for the slave does not know what his master is doing; but I have called you friends, for all things that I have heard from My Father I have made known to you
16 “You did not choose Me but I chose you, and appointed you that you would go and bear fruit, and that your fruit would remain, so that whatever you ask of the Father in My name He may give to you.
17 “This I command you, that you love one another.
No greater connectedness, friends of God, chosen of the eternal creator for relationship not to be in the Christain circle but to be in the Divine movement, enjoying the relationship enabling us to enjoy sport, people, mountains, seas, music, art, living via the vehicle of relationship with Father Son and Holy Spirit as well as each other, what a world to be alive in.
Commence by becoming friends to move into the depth of full connectedness with one another and God. Learn friendship and you will go deeper into God as well.
Stage 1 Strangers – Strangers are people you begin to share information with on a superficial level. Meeting in hallways, have little eye contact, conversation is in general terms, you might attend activities, events, volunteer
Stage 2 Casual Acquaintances – You still do not know each other well enough to share personal information, might ease into sharing some feelings and thoughts but only “positive” ones about non-controversial topics. You’re there to have fun, share a task. its about getting to know one another better, Skills for Independent Living
Things casual acquaintances might do:
Stage 3 Friends – Trust begins, secure enough when you are in the other person’s company to be more spontaneous, laugh, giggle, tease. It’s OK to discuss negative things as long as amongst positive ones . Face-to-face time regularly, sharing personal information and gain personal information. Support likes, dislikes, philosophies, and character traits.
Stage 4 Deep Friendships – Both have experienced each other closely trust is there, best friends here, relationship tested. Commitment to continue working on the relationship.
Stage 5 Self-Intimacy – This innermost circle consists of you, Healthy friendships move gradually from 1 to 2.