An Honest answer is like a Kiss on the lips – Kiss of friendship
I am amazed and shocked how much influence a man can wield… our TV has been dominated in recent years with talent shows and competitions for all types of people and animals. Dog trainers, singers, puppeteer, acrobats, martial arts, dancers, individuals and groups alike, all trying their best, programs such as “….got talent”, “X factor”, “The Voice”, “Idol”, the population that view seem to be oblivious to the program’s design, its aim to be exposing of the unfortunate through flattery, its staging what will be done to get viewing figures, the ridicules along with the talented in a world where we have no failures where we are not to allow any one to fail at anything.
The voice of one man, one judge is sought on the UK and USA programs, the opinion of the daddy of talent programs Simon Cowell, a judge, it is what all take interest in receiving. Yet he has acquired a reputation for his severe criticism of the pop-star hopefuls, talent displays. “My attitude has always been, ‘Don’t lie to people,’” Simon says. “Kids turn up unrehearsed, wearing the wrong clothes, singing out of tune, and you can either say, ‘Good job,’ and patronize them or tell them the truth, and sometimes the truth is perceived as mean.”
The real question is, why do people even show up?
Even the untrained ear can discern that many of them can’t sing. Yet they believe with miraculous sincerity that they can make it big. What has happened here?
Someone lied. In an attempt to encourage, a parent or friend or significant other told the hopeful singer that he had the right stuff. In the name of love, someone told him that he should make a CD. Out of a desire to protect the self-image of a young person, someone lied.
Cowell acknowledges that part of his job is to close that gap: “For a lot of contestants, it’s a suspension of belief. Your family and friends say you’re pretty good—and we’re here to stop you.”
Before you made a fool of yourself, wouldn’t you want to be stopped? As hard as it may be to hear the truth, as difficult as it may be to accept it, wouldn’t it be more loving and kind if someone said, gently and firmly, “Don’t do this. It’s not good. I like you. I love you. But you’re not a pop star”?
Of course it would. But we’ve lost the ability to tell the truth when the truth is hard.
Proverbs 24:26 says “An honest answer is like a kiss on the lips,” it’s not an honest answer is like a slap on the face. A kiss is something to look forward to…but honesty?
How can these two be similar?
How is a kiss comparable to an honest answer?
A kiss honours relationship.
A kiss brings us close to another and builds relationship.
Risking this type of kiss, we honour one another and our relationships.
Moses’ father-in-law, Jethro, took a big risk when he told Moses that he was taking on too much responsibility by acting as arbiter of all disputes for the people of Israel: “What you are doing is not good!” (Ex. 18:17 ). Moses, who was not known for his patience when confronted with the truth, could easily have rejected this advice—and the advisor. However, “Moses listened to his father-in-law and did everything he said” (v. 24 ).
How many times has your wife or husband come to you honestly “I’m upset…” your children turn and say “I don’t like that…” Often we are not excited to be told the truth about ourselves, especially when it’s contrary to our perception
We could save ourselves much hassle by letting things go. But some times we bravely take on the task of truth telling for my sake and for the sake of better relationships in our family. Proverbs 24:3-4 says, “By wisdom a house is built, and through understanding it is established; through knowledge its rooms are filled with rare and beautiful treasures.”
Telling the truth is interior decoration for another’s character. The risk—and the relationship—is worth it.
More thoughts on these kisses next time